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All the Joy You Can Stand-Review

7 Feb

I am a self-help book junkie and this one is definitely my one my TOP 5 MUST KEEP! From beginning to end felt like Debrena was speaking directly to me. Debrena provides a lot of life experience to back up her concepts. This book is an easy read the chapters are nice, short and straight to the point. I love the exercises Debrena has in some chapters; I would definitely suggest you keep a notebook and a pen by your side to jot down any ideas or ‘Aha!’ moments.

3 Main things that stood out for me:

Energy Management

It is very important to take a step back and ask yourself ‘How have I been investing my energy? Debrena points out that when we are constantly engaging in situations in which we feed others’ energy but are not fed in return our spirit erodes or our energy tanks become depleted. Energy exchange occurs all the time whether we are aware of it not. That’s why it is important to notice how you feel around certain people and also notice if you feel the anxiety when you are asked to commit your energy time and effort in someone, project or event.

Tell the truth

‘a commitment to telling the truth is the first process of self discovery… healing takes place within us as we speak the truth of our lives.’

Many people are not honest with themselves and often go to great lengths trying to protect themselves from the reality around them. They do this by lying. Lying may seem appealing with short term because it can make a bad situation seem better than it is or disappear altogether.  But in the term it may make thing much worse.  The three most common ways people lie to themselves and reject reality are: repression, denial and delusion.

Repression is a psychological term – It occurs when people refuse to think about something by trying to forget about it and bury it deep inside the mind (this can occur consciously or unconsciously).

Denial is the most common form of lying and it is when someone refuses to accept the truth

Delusion is completely refusing to accept the reality of situation by pretending things are different then they usually are.

Learn to tell the truth about your life, your job, your family, your friends, your relationships, your dreams and you’ll notice that you will look at a life differently.



How do you expect god to give more when you are not grateful for the little you have? Developing an attitude of sincere gratitude for your current blessings unleashes the power for receiving many more. Every Day Give Thanks. When you are in a sincere state of gratitude your energy (vibrational resonance) is one of acceptance and harmony. You resonate and as a result project a much higher vibrational frequency which is exactly what attracts to you the events, conditions, and circumstances that you desire.

I hope you enjoyed this book


Lili Jalo










Kill Your TV

15 Jan

I find TV very educational; every time someone turns it on I go on the other room and read a book.
The average person spends an average of 4-6 hours a day watching television!
Can you believe it!? The television is a form of entertainment however people are spending large chunks of their lives watching people live their dreams!
Some people cannot see themselves without television! I find this shocking

Now read below and see whether you are TV junkie or a TV victim
                                                     5 signs you are a TV junkie
1. You spend 4 hours or more watching television
2. When you promise yourself that you will only watch one episode of ‘friends’ and you end up watching 10!
3. You keep watching repeats of your favourite TV shows
4. You don’t do what you have to do because your favourite show is on! (I can identify myself with this one) 
                                                         4 signs you are TV victim
1. You try to emulate things you see on TV- we are constantly bombarded with images of ‘perfect women’.  The media is constantly “telling us” what to do e.g. buy this car, wear this, put on this perfume, wear this particular deodorant, buy this cell phone AND THEN “YOU’LL BE OKAY, OR AT LEAST BETTER THEN YOU ARE NOW” … the type of things you see on TV often come with the message “you are not okay the way you are”

And if you are one of these women that try to look like the women on TV by trying to emulate their behaviours such doing same hair styles, buy same clothes and go as far as surgery to change parts of your body you are unhappy with- just because the media portrays this as inadequate you are definitely a TV victim!
2. You engage in consumption of products that are constantly advertised on TV- and somehow you put into your head need that product (pair of shoes, bag, camera, new dress etc)
3.Most of your conversations revolve around TV shows-‘who died?’, ‘who got married?’, ‘who’s cheating on who?’
4. You spend more time trying to figure out what is going to happen on that particular TV show, then you do trying to figure out why you are in debt, why your relationship is failing, why you can’t seem to lose weight,  why you hate your job…and the list goes on ladies!!!!

So for if you are a TV junkie or TV victim or both let me ask you this question ‘which side of the glass do you want live on?’
When you watch television you are watching people that are doing what they love to do for a living, this means that these people are at the best side of the class because they are having fun and you are passively watching them have fun… THEY ARE GETTIN MONEY AND YOU ARE PAYING. PERIOD.

So next time you to turn on the TV consider if what you are watching is ADDING VALUE TO YOUR LIFE!!   For example: I used to watch “The hills” like the whole day… I didn’t care whether it was an episode I had already seen, I’d just watch it!!!!! The time I used to watch them could’ve been used to something productive.

From now on I only watch TV when I feel like I have a done something productive for that day or week. In this case the TV acts as a form of reward.

P.S Don’t get me wrong there are some TV shows that add value to people’s lives!

Hope this helped all the TV JUNKIES and TV VICTIMS!

Stay blessed

Lili Jalo

January: All the Joy You Can Stand

3 Jan

All The Joy you Can Stand

It is the beginning of a new year so I thought to myself why not pick a book that could perhaps change your life.

How are you starting this New Year? Have you taken action to make some changes in your life? Or are you engaging in the same old habits you had in 2010? What kind of energy are you bringing with you this New Year? What is your spirit telling you? Is your spirit screaming for some renewal? Are you happy? Do you know what brings you joy?

“On the outside, we may look like we’re doing fine, while on the inside, we are haemorrhaging spiritually. For many of us, the erosion has left holes in our souls and a trail of other effects: loss of motivation, procrastination, loss of energy, loss of passion and enthusiasm; feeling unfocused, unfulfilled, disorganized, always on the go, off centre; being unsettled, anxious, nervous, indecisive, irritable, fidgety, or feeling as if your life has become one rushed hectic, stressful routine.”

This book presents you with 101 power principles that will help you identify what brings you joy and also show HOW you can incorporate more joy in your life. This book will show you how to:

  • Discover Your Sacred Space
  • Strengthen Your Gratitude Muscles
  • Integrate Renewal Into Your Life
  • Be a sensuous Woman
  • Free Your Creative Genius
  • Cultivate Your Intuition
  • Expand your Joy Threshold

I have read this book before and I would read this book 50 times if you asked me to. I can tell you that her style of writing is wondrous, funny charming and easy to understand. The book is well structured and she speaks loud and clear. You won’t be disappointed.

GIVEAWAY: I have to copies of All The Joy You Can Stand signed by Debrena Jackson Gandy and I decided to give it away to two book club members: Muna Jalo and Shawn Evans.

Other Reviews

“Sister Debrena shifts the reader’s spiritual gears from conditioned time-lock living to better ‘energy or life force’ management that will enhance your ‘joy’ ratio. Oh, what joy will flood your soul after reading this book. Amen; or, for gender inclusion, ‘awomen.’ ”
–Dr. Gwendolyn Goldsby Grant, Essence columnist and author of The Best Kind of Loving

“Debrena Jackson Gandy possesses the secret of joy! Blessedly for us, she shares it in the spirit of sisterhood. All the Joy You Can Stand is a wonderful treasury that you won’t want to keep to yourself.”
–Stephanie Stokes Oliver, author of Daily Cornbread: 365 Secrets for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Spirit

“An excellent read for anyone on the path to peace of mind. Debrena has written a wonderful guidebook that will lift your spirit, comfort your heart, and improve your life.”
–Dr. Grace Cornish, author of 10 Bad Choices That Ruin Black Women’s Lives

Review: Power of Now

3 Jan

Hello Book Club Family, Happy New Year!

I hope you have enjoyed the book: The Power of Now

Eckhart Tolle’s message is simple yet complex: living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment.

I understand that some of you found this book very complicated! Don’t panic, so did I. I am planning to read it again and post a second review.  I think it is very important to read books like these more than once because if a book is deep, complex, and challenging with many layers, it is difficult to take it all in one reading.

“Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested: that is, some books are to be read only in parts, others to be read, but not curiously, and some few to be read wholly, and with diligence and attention.” (Sir Francis Bacon)

A key concept this book points out is that we need to learn to become less analytical, and once this is achieved we will experience a certain kind of enlightenment. Instead of just thinking try to just observe your “thinking” and you will soon realize that all that thinking noise is not who you are.

Most people are either living in the past in a state of regret and resentment or living in the future in state of hopelessness and wishful thinking that they forget to enjoy the present. We must abandon our psychological attachment to the past and future and “Be so utterly, so completely present”

I think some of his declarations are worth a second look. Are women really “closer to enlightenment” than men, and is their monthly menstrual cycle poised to become the powerful catalyst for their widespread awakening? Does greater consciousness actually lead to a “significant slowing down of the aging of the physical body”? Whatever the ultimate veracity of these and other unusual declarations, their inclusion in the book only served to raise further questions, rather than illuminating or clarifying the territory of enlightenment.

Tolle points out that it is important to “Direct your attention inward,” he says, “If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. Primary reality is within, secondary reality without.”

This book is set in a question and answer format which helps to understand the concepts he introduces.  One concept I found very enlightening was the concept of the ‘I’ and the ‘self’.  For example, if you hear a friend talking to himself or herself and you ask them who they are talking to, they will usually say “I’m talking to myself”. This, by definition, means that there have to be two “selves”, an “I” talking to “myself”- which is referred to the “you” and “thinking you” in the book

I highly recommend this book to people who worry too much about the future or who cannot get away from the past however keep in mind this is a very powerful book and may not be suitable for all to read

If you have one eye on yesterday and one eye on tomorrow, you’re going to be cockeyed today. Anonymous


From Lili Jalo

December: The Power of Now

2 Dec

A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

Hugely successful author Eckhart Tolle guides us through a challenging but extremely rewarding journey to find The Power of Now. We learn that we can find our way out of psychological pain; authentic human power is found by surrendering to the NOW; the silence and space all around us is one of the keys to entering inner peace. In the Now, the present moment, problems do not exist.

In the Now, we discover that we are already complete and perfect.

Eckhart Tolle was born in Germany, graduated from the University of London and worked at Cambridge University. When he was twenty-nine, profound spiritual transformation virtually dissolved his old identity and radically changed the course of his life. He is now a counsellor and spiritual leader.


‘THE POWER OF NOW can transform your thinking. The result? More joy, right now.’ (Oprah Winfrey )

‘Pointing to the portals of the eternal Present, this practical mystic’s modern gospel offers transcendent truths that set us free.’ (Dan Millman )

‘In the self-help heaven that is the US, Eckhart Tolle is fast becoming the next Deepak Chopra. His book, THE POWER OF NOW, is the bible du jour – a must-read for anyone looking for a modern take on spirituality . . . Essential reading for anyone who might be feeling weighed down by the past or fearful of the future’. (Red magazine )

‘This book is generating quite a buzz of excitement. It is quite simply one of the clearest and most accessible texts on becoming more present that we have seen.’ (Kindred Spirit).

I hope you enjoy,


Lili Jalo

October- The Power of Positive Thinking

18 Oct

OCTOBER – The Power of Positive Thinking

Hello book club family, sorry for the delay!! I’ve been having major problems with wordpress. But everything is sorted now and i’m back with yet another book :D

The book for this month is going to be The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr Norman Vicent Peale

In his international bestseller, THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING, Norman Vincent Peale has inspired millions with his heartfelt prescription for enjoying a more fulfilling life.

The phenomenal and inspiring bestseller by the father of positive thinking. THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING is a practical, direct-action application of spiritual techniques to overcome defeat and win confidence, success and joy. Norman Vincent Peale, the father of positive thinking and one of the most widely read inspirational writers of all time, shares his famous formula of faith and optimism which millions of people have taken as their own simple and effective philosophy of living. His gentle guidance helps to eliminate defeatist attitudes, to know the power you possess and to make the best of your life.

I Hope you enjoy this book and take these techniques and apply to your everyday life.

‘Happy thoughts fill your life with happiness’

Have a wonderful day

From Lili Jalo

How to Win Friends and Influence People Review

18 Oct

REVIEW:  How To Win Friends and Influence People

This was an amazing book, I absolutely loved it! I understand people on a whole different level. Dale Carnegie was right when I said that “you can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

This book allowed me to make a lot of good friends and also helped me to develop the relationships with people already in my life.

If you haven’t read this book, I would strongly advice you to read it. if you have no idea of what I’m talking about here are some principles recommend by Dale Carnegie:

The principles recommended are:

  1. Don’t criticize, condemn or complain. Instead of condemning people, lets try to understand them, a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism: and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.


  1. Give honest and sincere appreciation. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime-repeat them years after you had forgotten them.”


  1. Arouse in the other person an eager want. “Self expression is the dominant necessity of human nature. When we have a brilliant idea, instead of making others think it is our, let them stir the idea themselves, they will the regard it as their own and they will like it, and maybe eat a couple helpings of it.”


  1. Become genuinely interested in other people. If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others, at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind.


  1. Smile. Your smile is a messenger of your goodwill. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.


  1. Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. The information we are imparting or the request we are making, takes on a special importance when we approach the situation with the name of the individual.


  1. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.


  1. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest. Talking in terms of the other person’s interest pays off for both parties.


  1. Make the other person feel important – and do in sincerely. Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hour

This book is all about building relationships; with good relationships personal and business success are very easy to attain.

I would love to know what you think about this book and please do not forget to post your reviews.

Love from

Lili Jalo

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